Saving your relationship from break up, especially now that divorce statistics have gone through the roof should be a top priority. If you have been in a break up before or seen someone go through one, it’s obvious that you know the pain and hurt that come with it. After a break up one may move on or even live with the pain forever. But most break ups result from complacency. You can see it coming but you do nothing about it and then it’s suddenly over between you two. If you are in a relationship that seems to be heading down that break up route, then you better watch out before it’s late.
Before you think of saving your relationship, it is important to know about things that would lead to a breakup. Above all other things a break up will occur due to loss of attraction to each other. In other words when attraction is less than the ‘ex forces’ in your lives. These forces may include strained communication, lack of quality time and ex lovers as well as infidelity. When these factors dominate your relationship then it is not bound to last.
The first step to saving your relationship from break up is by making sure that you get the right partner. He or she must be a person of quality character and one who meets most of your expectations in the list of the person you want to settle with. Many people go for the wrong matches and end up with disappointments in future and possibly land into break ups they could have avoided. Getting the right person ensures you reduce the regrets in the future.
You can act on saving your relationship by engaging in activities that can rekindle the attraction that drew you to each other. Do things that build value, show appreciation and love for each other. Never take your partner for granted. Instead, create passion with each other as this will sustain the attraction you once felt. Be the person your partner fell in love with and if there’s any change, then let it be positive.
Deal with challenges facing your relationship. These are the things that may eventually lead to a break up hence the need tackle them when they arise. They range from trust issues to infidelity, jealousy and insecurity among others. Talk about them to clear doubts or clarify what is not well understood. But this will only be possible if you have established a good communication channel between you and your partner. Be friendly in your talks, avoid self defensiveness or anger during conversations as this will never solve your issues.
Old fears from past relationships can greatly affect your relationship to the extent of a break up. These may include fears of rejection, not being beautiful or attractive enough or even financial insecurity. These lead to feelings of insecurity and withdrawal and may be disturbing to your partner. Saving your relationship from such can bolster healing and help you get over many negative feelings that stand in the way of happy couples.
Acknowledging each others’ expectations in a relationship is an important aspect to avoid the break up. This saves you from conflict and disappointments that arise when either of you assumes the other person’s expectations in the relationship. Know what your partner wants for both of you and talk about your future plans. Avoid assumptions that the relationship will run itself normally.
Finally, keep things fresh in the relationship. Being unpredictable, having fun and ever pleasant, you will never have the fear of facing the break up. Let your partner never find a reason to break up with you and you will be on the right path to saving your relationship.