It’s the desire of every couple to have a great relationship, and no one gets into a relationship expecting a downside of it. Many people have easily been found to conclude that relationships are hard, and those who are yet to get into a relationship are becoming too cautious not to make mistakes. But what makes a relationship either hard or easy to manage should not be expected to come from anywhere else but it largely depends on the couple.
You can either make your relationship a paradise or a hell. And most couples have either unknowingly or out of some negative passions found themselves creating hells of relationships for each other. It’s true that conflicts are inevitable in any relationship, but what should you do for instance, when faced with a difficult moment in a relationship? Do you spend all your time thinking and meditating about the unfortunate difficult side? If you do that you are likely not to bring any solution to the already painful relationship. In every back side there is a front side. Every negative has a positive and likewise every low side has its high side. If you want to get the best in your wife or a husband for that matter, the way to go is not to keep on pointing to their inconsistencies. The best you can do is to look beyond their shortfalls and pay more attention on their best performing side. You can’t make anyone better by always pointing on their dark sides. The best way to inspire human kind is by lauding them for what they do best and not by always complaining about their weak spots.
The other thing you can do to make your relationship great is to identify your strengths and act upon them with all your energy, without getting into the temptation of holding back even a great idea just because you don’t want to wrong your spouse. Imagine how many opportunities that would have otherwise brought joy to your relationship, which you have apparently let go just because you didn’t want to be wrong. An idea that is not put into action will not help your loved one. Neither will it help you. You’d better share out your feelings and be told that you are wrong instead of holding a bright ideology to yourself and never be of any good even to yourself. Being overly cautious not to make a mistake is by itself a big mistake.
What do you do when your spouse reaches out for a gesture of love? Love is as jealous as God and always seeks to be given an ample room. You can’t always turn down the efforts of your spouse to show passion and expect to have a great relationship. He or she is likely to be tempted to think that you have no time for them because you have contentment elsewhere. And you don’t want to open a room for suspicion in your relationship. You may not like the way he or she has shown remorse, and they don’t have to walk on their knees before you can open back the doors of love or forgiveness for them.
Lastly, you can do to yourself a favor and to the man or woman you love if you can choose not to allow the pain of any past break up, if there was any, to ruin your current relationship. Get to deal with any of those past relationship hard feelings even if it means seeking for professional marriage counselor’s services so that you don’t unnecessarily transfer pain to your current relationship.