One thing is clear about a broken relationship. There follows pain that could only be expressed by someone who has suffered the consequences of a broken relationship. It’s not healthy, both emotionally and physically to dwell in the past and to allow the feelings of failed relationship to take a driver’s seat in your life. There has to be a way to move on with life, ideally because life is greater than a break up, no matter the loss that you may have suffered.
Following a divorce, a break up or any kind of
separation in a relationship, no doubt there follows heavy feelings of loss, essentially because of dreams that may have been initially shared together between a man and a woman. One begins to feel the pain of the crashed dreams and it may take some time before overcoming. Apart from such pain there are other things that happen, most of them followed by unfathomable regrets. You begin to feel distressed, especially owing to numerous changes taking part in your life. You begin to adjust from a home that you’ve not been used to, your status changes and often you feel distressed by how people are taking you especially if you think some may have taken you as a loser.
It may not be easy to find full healing after break up but it is possible. And it’s necessary that you find ways to seek healing although you’ll have to be patient before this can fully be achieved. You’ll have to pass through sadness, you’ll feel stressed out and most of the times you’ll be fighting grief. But you ought to know that this is all natural and there is nothing unusual with feeling grieved. However, the best thing you can do to get over this strenuous moment is to look for ways to talk about your feelings so that you may get a relief. You don’t have to talk to everyone. Look for someone you can trust or get creative on talking out your stress. If you can pray, then this is one of the best ways to feel that there is a higher power taking care of your woes.
Let your feelings flow even if you have to cry a river, as long as this will help you find relief and act as an initial step towards moving on with your life. Don’t build on the past no matter how flowery it used to be. Tune your mind that milk that has been spilled could not be scooped again and begin to look into the future with hope. This is the time that you ought to be picky with friends. Look for new friends who can add value to your life. If you know of persons who may have gone through similar situations and were able to overcome, then spend a little more time with them. Shun friendships with people who talk negatively for they are unlikely to offer any inspiration towards what you are passing through.
Develop new ways of life that can energize you. Don’t mind that there is no one out there to treat you. Begin to treat yourself well by feeding well, going to some outings to some cool place and stay away as much as possible from substances such as alcohol or drugs that may end up worsening your situation. Be passionate about the future.