Not until you have developed deep feelings for a person in a new relationship do you identify a selfishness trait in them. At first, you may not be able to know what kind of a person your boyfriend is until you have dated him for some time. A period of a month or more may be enough to tell whether he is or he is not the perfect guy you always dreamed about. After you have learned of your boyfriend’s character then you can easily define and possibly pass a judgment on his personality. You may have noticed a change in behavior where he’s become inconsiderate as days pass by. And you may be wondering whether you are sinking in a selfish relationship. Here are some top signs that can help you judge whether you are dating a selfish boyfriend.
At times you feel that you can’t get it out of your mind for those uncountable times that your boyfriend has acted selfish in your presence. You can easily identify your boyfriend as self-centered if the only thing that comes out of his mouth is ‘me’, when he always talks about himself and the things that he likes or those that he hates in a relationship or life in general. You definitely don’t have to be a rocket scientist to know that such a behavior implies that he is selfish. If your boyfriend doesn’t consider your feelings and opinions at all and he feels that he is the only one who matters.
A selfish boyfriend will always expect a favor back whenever he offers a favor. That means that he cannot provide anything for you or his friends if there is nothing he expects in return. He may also say a quick ‘no’ when he is asked to give something and comes up with thousands of reasons as to why he can’t do it. And most probably, those reasons tend to point at another persons fault and never at any time will he want to own up his faults. Such a boyfriend doesn’t believe in giving more than he is expecting, especially when it comes to paying the bills and meeting other financial expenses. You may also note that he gives the exact amount of anything he is asked for.
Another sign that may point to your boyfriend’s selfish behavior is when he makes promises that he won’t fulfill. He may have made them consciously or sub-consciously but never seems to remember. If he remembers then he seems not to care much about them. Or is your boyfriend a type that always remembers and minds elements that only concern him or his relatives?
Lack of sympathy also implies that your boyfriend is the selfish type. Such a self-interested boyfriend feels that he is always on the right side. And whenever he hurts you, he never apologizes. Your feelings seem to be less important to him. He may want to be listened to at all the times and be given emotional support while he himself only worries about himself and all that concerns him. Is your boyfriend showing any of these character traits? You’d better address them and if he can’t listen to you then you can seek professional help, for you don’t want things to get out of hands.
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